2013 in a nutshell

I can't believe 2013 has come to an end already? It seems like we just rung in 2013 and here we are about to ring in 2014. I hope 2013 brought you many blessings this year.

 David and I got to do a lot of fun things this year. Including concerts, and trips, and just fun things around here in Omaha.

In January we went to go see the National Figure Skating championships. That was so much fun. It was nice to see something up close in personal that I normally just sit and watch on TV.

In February I got to experience my very first every circus. I felt like a kid along with all the other kids. It was so much fun.

In March, I went to the Winter Jam Concerts of 2013. I got to see 10 Christian artist all in one concert. It was a lot of fun. I got too see Toby Mac, Jamie Gracie, and New Song just to name a few. It was a PACKED House. The most people I have seen in one location.

In April, We went to go see the Newsboys with our friends from church. I have to say this was my favorite concert all year!

In May my parents visited from Alaska for a week while they were here we went and walked the pedestrian bridge here in Omaha and was able to stand in two state at once.. It is always nice to have family in town. I really truly miss having family just miles away like when we were in Alaska. Family is the most important thing to me. David also went and visited his dad and brother in Portland at the end of May. I am so glad he was able to go see his family too.

In June David and I celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary. Its crazy how fast time flies when you are having fun. We celebrated by going to dinner at a restaurant that was located on a lake which was absolutely beautiful. Also in June our agency puts on a huge fundraiser called Sand in the city where they build giant sand sculptures right here in downtown Omaha. Its great!

In July David spent a week at our  youth Summer camp with our church called Super Summer. He talked about that for months afterwards so I guess he had fun. I also got braces put on in July. We also spent much of the summer at the lake on our paddle boat.

August was a crazy but very busy month. The first weekend in August David and I got to go experience the US Open which actually took place right across the street from our house and then I flew to Ohio for a weekend to celebrate my grandpa's 80th birthday and then on the last week of August David and I flew home to Alaska for two weeks.

 In September I got somewhere along the lines of 14 inches off my hair and donated it to Locks of Love and I also got to shoot my first gun ever.

In October I went to Vala's Pumpkin patch with my friend Amber's family. It was my first time going to the pumpkin patch and I will never miss a year again!!

In November my aunt and uncle and cousin Timothy came and visited for Thanksgiving. It was so nice having family for Thanksgiving this year.

And December sadly I had to make another trip to Ohio. My grandpa went home to be with Jesus on December 1, 2013. His service was wonderful. He had full military honors and my dad did his service and did a wonderful job too. When I got home we had a Feast at our house with all our friend from church it was alot of fun. We even went and had a Bonfire in 18 degrees.

So as you can tell our year was full of  fun and excitment and I can wait to share this with our child one day. Whoever the Lord chooses our child to be will be in a family that like to have fun. I hope you guys have a BLESSED 2014 and we want to thank you for taking the time to stop and read our blog and pray for our adoption. Maybe 2014 will be the year you get good news. Please continue to pray and keep Christ first

Love Always
David and Bekah DeHart

Waiting is hard

I am writing this to let you know that waiting is not so easy. I know everything happens for a reason and God has a plan for us but that doesn't make the waiting any easier. How can I miss someone I never even met or hasn't even been born yet or may not even be conceived yet? My heart aches to be a mother and I wonder if that day will ever get to come. We have been working with our agency for 2 years now and have been in the adoptive parent pool for one of those years. I go through my up and downs. I know that God has the perfect child for us but waiting on him or her is so hard when I want nothing more to be a mom.

I know that God can see the big picture and He is looking down right now saying be patient my child for I have it under control. Its like a child waiting for Christmas to come and wanting to know what the get right now. I know that one day when this journey is behind us and we have our child all the pain and sadness I feel will all be just a memory and our child will be worth the wait and I will hardly remember what it is like to have a house empty of quietnes and toys.

I am praying the Lord's will be done but I also am praying it is sooner than later. I just ask that you continue to pray for the right child to come into our home and the The Lord will give me peace in waiting on the child he has planned for us.

Philippians 4:19 - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.

Update from the agency

Yesterday David and I went to our monthly PREPARE group. This one was the yearly update on how many babies were adopted out in 2012. For 2012 their were approximately 30 babies adopted out which is slightly higher that 2011. Again there is no average for how long our wait is. In 2012 there was one couple who only waited 4 months! The longest wait for a couple chosen this year was 7.5 years. So it really just depends on your profile letter and what the birth family is looking for in a  prospective adoptive family. Although we are still waiting to be chosen I feel blessed enough to even be on the list of waiting families. Right now there are 89 prospective adoptive families that are all wanting the same thing we want. I am just continuing to pray the Lord will continue to work with us and maybe we will be one of the 2013 families.

Update 7-24-2013

Alot but not alot has happened since my last post. So not adoption related but God has been really working in our lives since my last post. Especially with David in a good way. I have seen him grow in his walk with Christ these last few weeks, The Lord has opened up for him to preach at our church plant in Springfield, NE and he was able to go to our youth camp last week called Super Summer in Salina, KS. As his wife I am so proud of him. I am praying that The Lord will continue to work in His life and we are always in his will.

On another note we did have our yearly homestudy today and I just love our case worker. She is so easy to talk to. Now that is over for this year we are still just in the waiting game. I find it easier to get through to stay busy and not dwell on it that is why my posts have been far and few in between. Not that I don't mind talking about it because I do. Its just that there is nothing really to update on while we are waiting.

Until next time please continue to pray that The Lord will continue to prepare our hearts for our child and continue to gift the birth family the strength and courage they need.

Time to update

We have to update our profile and letter and renew our homestudy every year. Well, Its hard to believe its been a year already!! We got our homestudy renewal packet in the mail yesterday and its not near as fun to fill out a second time as it was the first time around. The first time around I was so excited to finally be at this point I flew through the paperwork. Getting it a second time is just a confirmation it is taking a little longer to be chosen then I hoped for. But on the other hand it gives us an opportunity to update our letter and make changes to it if we want too. I want to try to make it more personable to the birth mom as she reads it. I want our personality to shine through that letter and make her want us to be the parents for her child. Please pray God gives me wisdom and the words to say in our letter describing ourselves to her. This I have to say is the hardest part about the adoption process because you want to make myself look fun and the great person I am, but on the other hand I don't want to sound conceded. I find it really hard to talk about myself and my accomplishments. Hopefully if it be God's will this will be the last time we have to do our homestudy paperwork. It's crazy how fast this year went. Until next time please continue to pray on the Lord's timing and not our own.

For the vision is yet for an appointed time and it hastens to the end [fulfillment]; it will not deceive or disappoint. Though it tarry, wait [earnestly] for it, because it will surely come; it will not be behindhand on its appointed day. Habakkuk 2: 3

Sand in the City 2013

Each year our agency puts on the sand in the city which is their biggest fund raiser all year. I volunteered to work the Kid Zone. I had a blast doing it. I was a little disappointed when I woke up and it was forecasted to storm all day. On my drive down to the Century Link the rain was coming so hard I could hardly see out my windshield I wanted to turn around and go home. I kept pressing forward and I am glad I did because the sand sculptures were amazing. The talent that the people have to put this on is amazing. They start and finish the sculptures the Friday before the Sand in the City and only have 6 hours to complete. So all the sculptures you see were done in 6 hours or less. This event is so much fun. Not only are there the sand sculptures but there is face painting, cookie decorating, and games for the kids and live bands playing in the background. Even though it was a little soggy all in all it was a great day.

Infertility Awareness Week

It's infertility awareness week. I read this and it really rang true for me personally.

"Infertility isn't the roller coaster that many people describe - it's more of a ferris wheel. It just keeps going and going and going. Sometimes you have to exit the ride for a little while to reconnect with your spouse, get some space, or soothe your soul. Advice is everywhere, it seems, but I always find that the best advice is to rely on instinct and to be selfish sometimes. You have to take care of you."

It's a very long, slow process for a lot of women. Sometimes it's permanent and sometimes they get labeled "infertile" just to have a Miracle baby years later. For my story it began in 2007 when I found myself miscarrying after only 4 weeks. I only knew for 6 short amazing days. Before that awful November day. David and I had been praying for a child since February of 2006. After my miscarriage my OB/GYN started to run tests on both David and I. Shortly there after I was diagnosed with PCOS (Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrom) and with that diagnosis and other issues we faced my doctor was amazed we even conceived in the first place. We were told that we have a less 4% chance of ever conceiving again, but we all know God is bigger than any diagnosis and can work miracles if he so chooses. Me I held on to that hope for so many years after that after almost 4 years of infertility work and 2 IUIs or next step was to do an IVF. David and I both agreed that the money that it cost and the chance of it working was not worth the $10,000 gamble so we prayed and prayed for the Lord's guidance. We decided the best way to grow our family was through adoption. At the time we knew adoption would also be expensive but we knew our chance went from 40% to 100%. We like those odds a whole lot better. So in February 2011 we started looking into adoption agencies both locally and nationally. We thought about international but we felt the Lord wasn't leading us in that direction. After research David and I decided that a local agency worked best with us. We went with one company first but they declined us because they were looking more with families that were already established with children. Then in June 2011 my friend Amber invited me to Sand in the City here in Omaha. At the time I thought it was something put on by the city, but when we got there I found out that it was put on by a local adoption agency. I grabbed a few flyers and read them, not really giving them much thought. A few months later I ran across them again and read it again. So the next day I called them on my lunch at work and asked how much there information meeting was (most agencies cost). I was astounded when they told me they only charge our time, treasures, and talents and there was not interview process to get in. As long as you passed the home study and background checks you were in. We knew right away this is where the Lord has brought us. So in November 2011 we went to our first information meeting and in February 2012 we had officially started the process of becoming adoptive parents. In November 2012 we were officially accepted and approved to become adoptive parents through Nebraska Children's Home Society. That is where we are at today in this long long road to being parents. Through the last 7 years the Lord has taught me alot that things don't happen the way you plan them. I have spent many many many nights just crying out to God and literally tears falling crying to him asking him why he hasn't let David and I be parents yet. I still have my tough nights wondering why but I truly know He knows best for us. 

Thanks for taking the time to read my story in a nutshell. It just sometimes people don't realize how hard infertility is. I have gotten comments like well maybe God doesn't want you to be parents and I got questioned on why we paid so much for infertility work and want to pay thousands of dollars for adoption. But when the Lord places the desire of motherhood on my heart I can't ignore it, and yes he chose for me to be infertile and I gave up the dream of carrying my child in my womb along time ago. So I am carrying my child in my heart and just praying the Lord brings them home to us soon.