Just a few of my thoughts

Wow! I can't believe its been 2 years already since we decided to take our adoption journey. Its been 7 years this month since we decided we wanted to start a family.I would of thought by now being in my late 20's I would have had 2 or 3 kids right now. I always said I wanted to have my kids young so I could enjoy them growing up and I could enjoy my grand kids growing up. Growing up as a little girl I cared for my baby dolls as if they were alive and really needed me. I dreamt of the day I would find the man God wanted me to marry and we would start our family together. Never thought the Lord would bring to the road of infertility. It has definitely not been an easy one, and it doesn't look like it will end soon. Some days I feel like it will never happen and other days David and I will go to Target and walk around the baby stuff just dreaming of the day we can fill our house with it.

Ever since we got on the active adoption list 3 months ago we have been attending PREPARE groups with our agency which has helped a lot because it helps me realize I am not the only one that God has given this path to. There are 100+ couples waiting for a baby and we are just 1 of those couples. Our agency only adopts out between 25-30 babies a year so we could still be waiting a few more years depending on the Lord's time. But these groups also help me a lot because each month we talk about a different topic to help us prepare for our future with our child and his or her birth family.

Many times I catch myself  thinking what if we are never chosen and I never get to be a mother. Would I be OK with  that? Not really because my heart aches to be a mom and God want to see our desires of our hearts come to pass but it has to be in his timing. I just cling on him and with prayer and dedication to Him he will bring the right baby to us. I don't know who my son or daughter is yet but I do know that he or she is a very special person because good things come to those who wait. I pray for him or her every single day and that  they will come to know the Lord at a young age and not go through the things of this world. Who knows may be he will be the next great evangelist and win hundreds of souls to Christ! I know one thing I look forward to that day I get that phone call from the agency telling us a birth mother has chosen us to be the parents of her baby. Please continue to pray for her and the trials she will be facing to as she makes t his life changing decision.

Jeremiah 29:11

New International Version (NIV)

¹¹ For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

2012

As 2012 comes to an end, I want to reflect on its up and downs. It rose up many challenges but ti also had many blessings.

We were finally accepted into Nebraska Children's Home Society in February 2012 which was exactly 6 years after trying to start our family. We started our journey with the agency and came to many roadblocks along, but we finally got approved as a waiting family on November 7, 2012. I am looking forward to what 2013 brings. We have a goal for 2013 to get completely out of debt except for the house and the car. If we stay on our path I think it may actually happen. My prayer is we will also be blessed with a child in 2013. The agency told us that we could be on the list for years but I have faith that it will not take that long. I knew waiting would be hard but it is a lot harder than I thought it would be. You go to a store and you want to look and dream about the day you get to hold your son or daughter. I know only the Lord knows when that will happen.

David has been amazing in this journey. He has always been my shoulder I can lean on and even though I don't always want to hear his words of encouragement at that time. He always knows what to say to make me feel better. I am so grateful he Lord gave him to me. I think we have gotten a lot closer to each other this last year. We have both grown stronger in the Lord and gotten a lot closer to each other.

One of our biggest trials this year was trying to choose a new church. I was perfectly content where we were and happy, but David wasn't growing in the Lord. So we prayed about it and I have to be honest I was praying for the Lord to change David's mind because I had built friendships at our old church and I was afraid that I would lose those friendships if we left. But as we prayed each night The Lord was actually changing my mind and not David's. After all David was our spiritual leader in our house and he needed to be growing in the Lord. So after months and months of praying and searching The Lord brought us to our new family church and in the 4 months we have been attending there David has grown tremendously it is such an answer to prayer. We immediately got involved head first and have been used by God ever since. I am just over joyed that we are where the Lord wants us. Even though I miss my friends at our old church I still get to see them and they are still a great part of my life and never want to lose those friendships, I am starting to build an extension to my friendships and being involved is such a great feeling. I cannot wait to see where they Lord bring us to in 2013. I am excited!

I want to thank-you for taking the time to read and I hope  you and your family have a safe and Blessed New Year

HAPPY 2013!!
The DeHarts

Great News!

After almost 2 years in working with our agency we finally made it on the active list.
Our profile letter is complete and now we just are waiting on the Lord to bring us our precious child. Now is the real test of faith. Up until this point we has some what control on how fast things progressed on how active we were in submitted paperwork and going to classes. Now it is just us putting 100% faith in the Lord he will bring our precious child home to us. It still could be several years yet. I will be OK if it takes that long because I just want the child the Lord has planned. For anyone who knows me knows that patience is never easy for me. I am such a planner in all things I do. At this point I we can do is pray and let the Lord do his work. This is such a big accomplishment thus far knowing the only step we have left is for a birth mother to choose us and bringing our baby home. Please continue to pray the Lord will bring us the right baby in his right timing. I am looking forward to the next step in our lives and meeting and building a close relationship with our birth mother whoever she is. I also ask for you to join me in prayer in praying for her as she has to make this hard decision in her life. I also pray that when she is in our lives David and I can be a witness to her and to win her to the saving knowledge of Jesus Christ. I really don't know what to expect at this point, but until I do I am picturing us having the best relationship with her and our child will know her and love her.

Update

I just wanted to update on where we are pn the adoption process. Alot of people have been asking. So I thought I would blog about it. We submitted all the required paperwork that is needed and our homestudy is complete. I submitted the final draft of our profile letter this last Monday. We are just waiting to hear if we got approved as adoptive parents. Which hopefully we will get that call either this week or next week.

After we are approved we just wait for the phone call to let us know if we have been chosen. They do not share with us that we are being shown because they don't want us getting disappointed every time a mother doesn't choose us. In the mean time we are able to attend the PREPARE meeting put on bu the agency which helps us prepare for our adoption and meeting our birth mother. Our first one is this Tuesday night. So until I hear we are officially been accepted in that is all I have for now. So please continue to keep us in  your prayers as the Lord continues to open his doors for us. All in the Lord's timing.

Our final meeting

I can't believe we are at the end! (well almost). We have our final home-study meeting on Monday! We have our profile letter written and our physical paperwork to turn in on Monday. All our background checks and fingerprints are done. So as long as our reference letters have been turned in I know I have at least 4 of the 7 that was sent out and our background checks are in and clear. We should just about be at the end of this and be ready to be on t he waiting list for a mother to choose us. The final thing that needs to be done is for our profile letter to be approved by the agency. I hope our personality shines through the letter. I found it difficult to write about myself in it.  Thank you so much for the prayers that have been coming they have been felt. Please continue to pray as we reach the next level of our adoption that the Lord will bless us on His timing for our son or daughter who is ready to join our family. I am so excited and ready for this next chapter and pray that the Lord will continue to answer our prayers. Now we are just saving money to put the nursery  together and for our lawyer fees for the finalization. When my mom is here in November we plan on starting the nursery decorating. We are obviously going to have to have a gender neutral themed nursery so I was thinking monkeys. Please check back in a few weeks for the good news that we have been approved and are on the waiting list. 

For the vision is yet for an appointed time and it hastens to the end [fulfillment]; it will not deceive or disappoint. Though it tarry, wait [earnestly] for it, because it will surely come; it will not be behindhand on its appointed day. Habakkuk 2: 3

Update

I was going to wait until we were completely done with our home study for my next post, but we are almost completely done with it. Our last step is to write our profile letter that will be shown to potential birth mothers. At first I was really kind of freaked out about writing this letter but as I sat down today to start it, I realized not only is it there to be shown so we can be "chosen" but when I started writing about my walk with the Lord and how important He is to me. I realized I could use this letter as a testimony to my Faith. So not only will she see it but other birth mothers my see it to who do not choose us to parent their child but it could be used as a tool to maybe one day to win them to Christ.  Because I want to make it known that Christ is at the top of our priorities and without Him we truly have nothing. I want her to know that her baby will be raised not only in a loving home filled with our love but also Christ's love. This child will be a gift from Him that he has used her as a tool to bring him/her to us and I want to be the tool to potentially bring her to Christ. How amazing would that be!!!

 I long for a close relationship with our birth mother. I know not a lot of people understand that. Trust me I didn't either before I started this journey. I realized with an adoption our son or daughter will have questions about their birth families and I want them to have answers to those questions. With an open adoption relationship the birth mother will be there to answer those questions I cannot answer.

We have had 4 of our 5 meetings with our Social Worker who is an amazing person BTW. Our last meeting is on September 24th. After that I think we just need to get our profile letter approved and wait for the fingerprints and backgrounds checks to be approved. Than we are in the next chapter of the process the waiting game and only the Lord can answer how long that process is going to be it could be 12 weeks or a couple of years only He knows.

More to follow in the next couple of weeks.

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